{"id":473,"date":"2014-11-14T18:29:09","date_gmt":"2014-11-14T18:29:09","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/topswingersguide.com\/?p=473"},"modified":"2024-09-25T05:13:02","modified_gmt":"2024-09-25T05:13:02","slug":"thinking-about-swinging","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/topswingersguide.com\/index.php\/thinking-about-swinging\/","title":{"rendered":"Advice For Those Thinking About Swinging"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Advice<\/a>It is absolutely undeniable that the swinger\u2019s lifestyle has a certain allure<\/span>. It is a Utopia of sorts. Being able to have the woman you love and have a life with but also having another woman to share your bed, guilt-free, with no repercussions, is every man\u2019s dream. Once a couple decides to try swinging, they reap the benefits at once. Swinging has often been said to save a marriage and bring a couple closer together. Some couples choose to swing<\/a> for only a short time and then go back to monogamous life and are happier for it. Others swing for several years with a variety of partners. No matter which way you go, there are some tips to keep in mind to make the whole experience easier and a lot more comfortable and fun.<\/p>\n

Your first foray into swinging should be as observers. This isn\u2019t as hard as it may sound. The Internet has hundreds of sites dedicated to swingers and it is easy to find a local swingers group in the members sections. Contact the group organizer and ask if it is ok to observe. There is no need to be shy, these people are used to questions and are usually very nice and understanding. Ask any questions you may have before discussing it with your girl. Once you have watched other people having sex in a group setting you will begin to set your own comfort zones a couple and as individuals.<\/p>\n

When you are ready to engage in sex with other people, the first time should be with one other couple. The environment should be in your home preferably or in theirs. It should be somewhere you feel extremely comfortable. Make sure you know the other couple fairly well<\/a> and feel at ease with them in this type of situation. Trust is big here, you must trust this other couple implicitly.<\/p>\n

Make sure you know the swinger guidelines<\/h3>\n

The same basic rules<\/a> of social interaction apply within the swinging community. When you are invited to a swinger\u2019s party you should bring the host a gift such as wine or liquor or flowers or pastry. Remember the niceties like please and thank you. Be courteous and mindful of others feelings. The sexual connotations of the affair does not negate personal responsibility. Contrary to popular belief, not all swinger\u2019s parties are just mad sex among a pile of bodies. You have the ability to say to no to any proposition and you will be turned down more than once to your own proposition attempts. It is part of the game and must be taken in stride with dignity and humility.<\/p>\n

Establish a safe word<\/a> with your partner so that you both know when it\u2019s time to go. If one or the other of you is not willing to go through with it, you can say the safe word and your partner knows it\u2019s time to go. No questions asked. It could mean danger is eminent or you just had a bad feeling. Establish the safe word just in case something happens.<\/p>\n