{"id":494,"date":"2015-05-13T00:00:19","date_gmt":"2015-05-13T00:00:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/topswingersguide.com\/?p=494"},"modified":"2017-02-10T05:31:11","modified_gmt":"2017-02-10T05:31:11","slug":"approaching-wife-about-an-open-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/topswingersguide.com\/index.php\/approaching-wife-about-an-open-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"How to approach your wife about an open marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Top<\/a>When approaching your wife about an open marriage, there are a number of factors to be considered. It is best to stick to a set of rules and guidelines, which is outlined as follows:
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Show Her That You Love Her<\/h3>\n

The first thing that your wife may hear in her mind when you say you want an open marriage<\/a> is that, \u201cYou Don\u2019t Really Love Her.\u201d And to be totally fair, she has a right to question or be upset with your proposal for an open marriage. That\u2019s why it is so important to understand how to mitigate those feelings.<\/p>\n

The best way to do this is to show her how much you love her<\/a>. In the days, weeks, even months leading up to when you decide to propose the idea to her, love her like you\u2019ve never loved her before. Go out on fun dates, buy her thoughtful (not necessarily expensive) gifts, do things she\u2019s always wanted to do, and most importantly blow her mind in the bedroom.<\/p>\n

If you do this correctly her love for you will be greatly invigorated, as yours will be for her. This is so that when she questions you about an open marriage, she\u2019ll know that it isn\u2019t because you don\u2019t love her, but for another reason. The next step is coming up with, and then explaining that reason. One of the best ways to do that is to:
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Make Your Libido The Issue<\/h3>\n

\u201cI love you, babe, but our sex drives are clearly mismatched most of the time.\u201d This is how you should frame your proposal. It\u2019s nothing against her; an open marriage is just a way for you to fulfill your needs. This reason is more logical than \u201cjust because.\u201d One important factor to make this reason believable is that you must demonstrate your increased libido<\/a>. If you\u2019re only making love to your wife a few times a month, then how can you justify an open marriage with you libido?<\/p>\n

Again, you must always be showing your wife how much you love her, and the best way to do that is with awesome, frequent sex.
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Exploring Fantasies<\/h3>\n

Just as the libido puts the onus on you and not her, so does the idea of exploring fantasies. If both of you had limited sexual experiences before marriage, then it will only seem natural that you will want to explore sexually with other partners.<\/p>\n

Remember, because this is an open marriage that means the wife will also be engaging, or at least has the opportunity, to engage in relations with other men. Some men can\u2019t handle this, but if you can, you can use it to help encourage your wife to accept the terms of this open marriage.
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Monogamy Is Not Natural<\/h3>\n

Humans were not designed to get married<\/a> or to only have one partner for the remainder of their lives. As can be seen with sky high divorce rates, people often go looking for someone else.<\/p>\n

If you emphasize the fact that sleeping with other women is simply in your DNA, it can help to further your point. Again, it\u2019s you, not her!<\/p>\n