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Guide To Becoming A Swinger

Planning is one of the keys to making a strong entry into the swing lifestyle. Remember, if you screw it up you could alienate the swing lifestyle community in your area and find yourself on the outside looking in, which is why you need to take your time and make a plan of attack, so to speak. The best way to get into swinging is via the internet and one of the many excellent swinging personals or dating sites where you can contact thousands of couples in your city or any city around you. There’s an art to picking the correct site though.

It starts out with the aforementioned planning. Before you jump right in you need to study the swing lifestyle and discover what you want out of it. Talk about it with your wife/girlfriend and see what she wants. Are you going to be wife swapping with another couple or do you want to go to swing parties where you split off and explore as many people as you can as the night goes by? Do you want to hook up with a single guy or girl (a single girl in the swinging scene is also known as a unicorn, a nod to the rarity of such a girl)? Even if you think you just want to try everything you’ll likely find through extended conversation with your partner that something emerges as what you really want. Feel free to take your conversations to the bedroom. After all, if this subject arouses you then talking about it should enhance your sexual play, arousing you both to the point of sexual neediness. In fact, it’s a good idea to play with the idea of swinging in a sensual way long before you actually give it a try.

A quick note here: if you’re a married or committed guy and you’re interested in swinging and she has no idea of your desires you really need to broach them with her in a calm, considered, and slow way. Don’t join a swing lifestyle dating site, communicate with couples, and spring it all on her one night. That’s a surefire way to end the relationship. Your lack of willingness to talk about her means you’re a coward or you know she’ll say no so you’re afraid of the letdown.

Once you and your partner have talked about the swing lifestyle, or wife swapping and have had some fun in the bedroom while fantasizing about it, and have decided on what turns you on the most it’s time to begin your research online. Your best bet is to consult our list of the top five social swinger sites and sign up for a free membership to each. It requires less than a minute for most and you’re welcome to use a free email account. Once you’ve signed up you should take your time in browsing the sites.

I know all of this sounds like you’re just delaying the satisfaction you crave so badly, but you have to understand that it’s experience that guides this article. Too many couples have burned out long before they got to that first swinging experience because they rushed into it. Others have had the swinging sex they wanted and just weren’t ready for it so they saw their relationships crumble under the stresses introduced. If you think you’re going to change the entire way your relationship works and start having sex with other people and there will be no strange feelings or consequences you’ve contracted a madness of some sort. You take your time with it because it lessens the impact of the changes you just initiated in your life and that’s a good thing.
 

As you browse the five highest rated swinger dating sites you should take great care to peruse each with a fine toothed comb of sorts. Some don’t allow you to view the profiles but you can see just about everything else or infer it’s there. Plus, profiles on the good sites tend to be easy to read so you needn’t worry or bother signing up for a paid membership until you’re ready to take the plunge and meet people. The first thing you should do is conduct a search for your desired match in your area. How many results are there? Do they seem promising or do the listings give off a whiff of fakeness? Do they make you want to become a swinger?

For some an important element of a swing lifestyle site is the community features. Some are better than others and your desire for them is entirely personal, although experience says that a site with a good community also fosters more openness between the members, which means more email responses and more meetings in person. Plus, if there’s a community you can make friends and even if you don’t hook up with those friends you can enrich your life by talking to them, which is never bad.

Most wife swapping and swing lifestyle sites offer bonus content that can include erotic stories to turn you on, amateur pictures and videos that have been uploaded by the members, information on swing clubs and parties, blogposts, groups to join and post in, and more. You’ll be able to get an idea of this content in the member’s area as a free member so it’s worth exploring.

Have an idea of how much you’re willing to spend as you look through the sites and consider. Each will require you to sign up for a paid membership before you can get in contact with other members so you’ll have to pay somewhere along the way. The most important concept I want you to take away from this step is: Join multiple sites This may sound like a lot of money to fork out but it really is not. Most sites cost less than $10/month if you high up for multiple months. If you have a sense that you’ll stick with the lifestyle for a while then it’s worth joining a site for up to a year to save what will amount to hundreds of dollars and allow you the freedom to join more than one site. What you will find, like other forms of dating, meeting swingers or wife swappers is a numbers game and the more sites you have access to the higher chances you have to make a sexual connection. I have found it is important to have at least 3 active memberships at all times. Doing so will GUARANTEE you always have someone new to swing with! When picking sites to join stick to only the ones I recommend. There are lots of scams out there, and I dont want you getting burned. I currently use, social sex, swingers club, Swap finder, Swinger profiles, and sex finder with great success. Now you are ready to move on to profile creation and message writing all outlined in the next step.
 

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