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Guide To Becoming A Swinger

You’re on the road to becoming a swinger. You’ve decided what you want from the swing lifestyle, you’ve joined a site, and you’re full of knowledge and desire about this new sexual life you’re hoping will go well. As with all the other steps along the way, the crafting of your profile on the swingers site of your choice is exceptionally important. If you screw it up you’ll turn off couples and swinging singles before they’ve gotten a chance to know you. Crafting a profile for a swinging couple is different than for a single man or woman so even if you have experience in those areas you should pay attention.

The title of your swinger ad is the first step and a surprising number of couples don’t give it nearly enough attention. Remember that the first thing anyone sees is the title of the ad and act accordingly. Also remember that it’s about presenting information with brevity. Saying couple seeking couple does offer information, but it also makes you the same as millions of others on the site and it doesn’t help narrow down what you want. Just as you have very specific sexual desires with regards to your swing lifestyle so do other couples. They want to know more about you. That’s why you need to get specific. If you’re an interracial couple then let people know it: Black guy white girl looking for same.î If you’re an older man and younger woman looking for a young guy to join you then get specific: May-December seeks younger man. By the time you’re at this stage and are sitting at your computer preparing a profile you should have a good idea of what you want, which is why you should be able to get specific with your profile’s headline.

The body of the message is equally as important and it’s more about information delivery than anything else. The game is entirely different when it’s a single guy writing a profile as he has to accomplish so much in so few words. As a swing lifestyle couple you need to get information across more than anything. You want the first email someone sends you to be an email of interest, not a request for more information because you didn’t think through what you were saying and left out key details. Start with brief descriptions of yourselves. Abbreviations are fine. Even if the site asks for your basic profile information (height, weight, body type, etc) and presents it clearly it’s worth putting in your profile text since most people read that before they browse the rest of your page. Some couples neglect to describe the guy for some reason. It’s just as important to know what the guy is like, particularly if you’re interested in wife swapping with other couples.

Once you’ve described your physical appearances with brevity you can move on to what you’re looking for. Again, you should be brief but as clear as possible. Don’t say you’re looking for a good time or great sex. Everyone is looking for that and everyone knows it, so when you do that you’re essentially saying nothing at all, which is sure to get you ignored by most browsing couples. Instead, you need to be clear about your specific goals and desires in becoming a swinger and entering into the swing lifestyle. Do you only want wife swapping? Is she a hot wife and you a dedicated husband watching from the side or waiting for her to come home? Are you interested in a single man or woman? Does the husband have bisexual desires he wants to explore? If you’re trying to write your profile and you have no idea how to be specific then chances are good you’re not ready yet because you haven’t thought about it enough or you’re afraid to commit to something or give voice to your desires. A good sign that you’re ready for the swing lifestyle is when those specific desires crystallize for you.
 

Now your profile is written and you’re ready to interact with others. Before you do you should learn how to spot a fake swinger profile and/or fake interactions. A few signs of a fake profile include no picture, a lack of true interaction and answers to your questions, their ad reads more like a Penthouse letter than something reasonable, they’re too interested in pushing you along the road to action, no one has played with them and recommended them, and the pictures look too perfect. Over time you’ll get much better at spotting a fake, but in general if it seems too good to be true then it is. The best way to combat a fake is to take your time in your interactions, which you should be doing anyway. Over time it will become clearer that you’re dealing with a fake and you can move on. Anyone that’s too eager isn’t a real swinger and is trying to work an angle and no doubt separate you from your money. Sad as it is to say, the male half of the couple is almost always the one that gets suckered in by the fake. It almost always happens when the fake profile features a picture of a beautiful girl and she seems really friendly and like she would be tons of fun in bed. Men are susceptible to this even if they seem like the most even-handed, intelligent fellas on the planet. Sometimes the hormones overwhelm the male brain, which is why swinging is way better than doing it solo since the woman can be there to smack some sense into her man.

Now that you know better how to spot a fake profile you’re ready to approach others. First and foremost you need to demonstrate patience. You know that you’re good people but you have to understand that no one else knows that and act accordingly. Be prepared to get to know someone via email, instant messaging, and webcam before you meet in person. Be prepared to meet in person several times before you take the plunge into full on wife swapping. It’s a big deal to swap partners with another couple and the transaction must be taken with the full seriousness it deserves.

Before you get to that point you’ll need to interest another couple, of course. It’s always good to start simple. Browse the profiles until you find one that you and your wife find physically appealing. Read all the text they’ve provided to try and get a sense for their personality as a couple and hopefully as individuals. If you respond on that level then send an email. It’s best to keep that first email simple since you have no idea if they’ll ever get back to you. However, it should include specifics. Something like ìYou guys are really hot and we would love to meet is almost always going to be met with silence because it seems like you’re not at all invested. Instead, pull something specific from their profile and try and start a conversation about it. Mention that you enjoyed that particular thing or it made you think of something, etc. Try to bond with them on a level that is entirely separate from sex. You’re not trying to meet your new best friends but you are trying to let them know that you took the effort to read their profile and think about them.

You’ll likely have to repeat that process over and over again until you find a wife swapping couple you really hit it off with. Remember, you have to be okay with that and demonstrate patience because the vast majority of couples in the swing lifestyle take their time, are careful about the people they meet, and value their privacy above almost anything else. You’ll need to prove you’re trustworthy before you get to venture into the world of pleasure swinging offers. Any follow ups after the first email should be honest and forthcoming for it’s in that behavior that you’ll find the truth of your desires. Be honest with your potential matches and sooner or later you’ll come across the couple of your dreams.
 

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